of dreamers and realists.






“There are dreamers and there are realists in this world. You’d think the dreamers would find the dreamers and the realists would find the realists, but more often than not, the opposite is true. You see the dreamers need the realists from keeping them from soaring too close to the sun… And the realists? Well without the dreamers, they might never get off the ground.”


- modern family 2011


i thought of this because i was just telling R about a dream that i had, and asked him whether he had any interesting dreams, but he said no. he doesn't remember his dreams. which led me to think...its so apt ain't it? i'm SO the dreamer and he's SO the realist in this relationship. so much so that he can't even remember his dreams. lol. 


i guess every relationship comprises of a dreamer and a realist. but the role of dreamer or realist a person plays, is never absolute. it changes from time to time, from relationship to relationship. 


where in previous relationships, given my character, i was the realist, uncomfortable with too much "dreaming". my relationship with R now paints a different picture. 


He's OBVIOUSLY a realist. practicality is his middle name. he is the most logical person you can EVER know. or at least i can ever know. (which makes you wonder why sometimes his arguments are so illogical, it doesn't make sense, and i guess i'm the only person who can say that because its a girlfriend's right to contradict herself in saying that my boyfriend is the most logical, and yet illogical person i know. but let's not go into details. lol.) ok putting lover's spat aside, if you see R as a human being, not as a bf, he is realistic. SO REALISTIC, PRACTICAL, LOGICAL. it can be good; stop all the nonsense that people (sometimes i) contribute to this already chaotic world. but it can be bad as well; because doing things the way it should be done shouldn't be the way to live by, we should break barriers, get out of our comfort zones, dream dreams and albeit some might turn into nightmares, at least you have imagination other than logic on your side. let's admit it, the former is so much more fun. that's where i come in. in this relationship, i'm the dreamer. teaching him how to be romantic, thinking of a dream wedding, a dream vacation, a dream date...etc...you get the idea. i say things or do things that makes me vulnerable, with the hope that i might get a haul. a haul of what? be it reciprocated gratitude, feelings, love, satisfaction, it doesn't matter. and even if i don't, i have the ability to pat the dust off my shoulder and move on. not everything i wish to do gets done. i don't always have the means to get my way, and that's where R's character shows me that some things are just beyond me. i'm not saying its impossible, because i've come to believe that everything's possible. but its just not worth it to obsess over, to get discouraged by, to cry over etc. so, we complement each other, and balance out the dreams and realities in our relationship.


its really intriguing to see such a change in roles. if you ask me, i'm happy where i am now. its a much lesser burden to bear being a dreamer. 







snll drifted away at 8:01 AM ----------